God, please give me a good husband
Please give me a child
Please heal my sick loved one
Please save my broken marriage
Please give me a good job
Please let me get that promotion I’ve been working for.
These are all examples of prayers being made to God on a daily basis. With the people trusting that God will listen and grant them their prayer request. But sometimes the answers don’t come, we’re left wondering if it’s a no or simply wait.
It is human nature to feel disappointed at this point when we continuously pray but see no answer coming our way. When we work so hard for an opportunity and see it passed to someone else, and sometimes, we get tired of congratulating others, wondering when we too will be celebrated.
At this juncture, we’re left with so many questions. Is God even listening? Does he not see the pain in my heart? Or the silent tears that fall like acid rain when the rest of the world is asleep?
Today, this is the subject of discussion, how to trust despite the unanswered prayers, despite the longing, and how to know if it’s a no or wait.
Trust In his Will not your own.
I won’t lie, this isn’t the easiest thing in the world. It’s like a trust fall where you’re assured that the other person will catch you, only this time the person is not visible.
Maybe you didn’t get that job because he has a better one in store for you, one you’ll truly love and thrive in. Maybe that relationship failed because the man was abusive and you hadn’t yet seen that manic side of him. Living with him would’ve caused you untold pain.
Scripture says in Isaiah 46:10.
“Declaring the end from the beginning and from ancient times things not yet done, saying, ‘My counsel shall stand, and I will accomplish all my purpose.”
As humans, our vision is limited and we only see what our eyes allow us to, but God, on the other hand, sees the big picture.
Know that the storm never lasts forever.
When we’re in that headspace where everything seems to be spiraling out of control and we’re about to burst at the seams, the storm never seems to cease. When we’re struggling to stay afloat as the water threatens to drown us and there’s nothing in sight to hold on to, the only thing we can hold onto is faith.
God never promises a smooth sail, but that He’ll be with you, guide you and give you peace during the storm. And just like how seasons come and go, the storm too will cease and the sun will come bursting with its warmth from the sky, comforting you and warming your heart again.
A Delayed answer is not a Denied answer.
I have had prayers and things that I asked God for but couldn’t see them manifesting. That made me feel awful and disappointed.
One time there was a relationship that I thought would lead to marriage, everything seemed perfect with them and if they had proposed at that point, my heart wouldn’t have wavered. Over time, things didn’t work out and we decided to go our separate ways.
After a few months, I found someone whose soul seemed to be intertwined with mine. We formed a connection far beyond what I imagined possible to have with another.
Currently, we are in a healthy happy relationship without any unnecessary dramas.
When I was crying my heart out over the previous relationship, wondering where it went wrong, I saw it as an unanswered prayer and wasted time and effort.
Little did I know that God was preparing me for the Ideal partner I had prayed over. I choose to see them as my answered prayer, yes it was delayed but not denied.
One story that fascinates me in the Bible is the story of Elizabeth and Zechariah, parents to John The Baptist. When the angel of the Lord approached Zechariah he told him not to be afraid. He said that God heard his prayer and his wife would bear a son called John.
At the time of the encounter, Zechariah is said to be of old age, his wife Elizabeth had long since passed the fertility age bracket. They’d probably prayed over a child countless times in their youth and finally accepted that it wouldn’t be. But the Angel of the Lord precisely said,“ God has heard your prayer.”
Given a chance between waiting to have John at old age and it being a blessed miracle or having him when their peers were having children too, which one do you think they would have chosen? Nevertheless, this is a perfect example of delayed prayer.
Have Childlike Faith
When I was young, I believed my dad was a superhero. Not the flash or superman in the Marvel series, just my very own personalized superhero.
Whenever he came home from work, I would run to embrace him and he would carry me on his shoulders and I could almost touch the ceiling. Being that high in the air made me giggle and so very happy. Other times he would toss me up and catch me mid-air.
Now that I’m older, I’m aware that if something went wrong I would’ve been hurt pretty badly but not once did I cry or wail when he tossed me up. I trusted him. I trusted that he’d catch me and that I was safe. That is the faith of a child.
As a young lady, I’m learning to trust God in that same manner too. Trust in his will and that He knows what’s best for me, even if it means some of my prayers will receive a blunt No. To trust that he will catch me before I hit rock bottom. For his ways and thoughts are greater than ours.
When we learn how to trust despite unanswered prayers, we get overflowing peace in our hearts. Sometimes his Grace is all we need to navigate through the disappointments and longing, but we can be assured that God still remains God and that his love for us never ceases.