People always tell us that it’s important to be selfless; To take care of others, put their needs first and help them in whatever way you can.
That’s great advice. But you shouldn’t forget that you’re human too. And you need to take care of your physical, emotional, and mental wellbeing.
There is no other person like you. You deserve to be loved not only by those around you but by the most important person in your life- YOU.
The concept of self-love is simple: valuing and caring for yourself so you can live a life that radiates peace and happiness.
The truth is, if you don’t take care of yourself first, it becomes a lot harder to help anyone else.
What Does Self-Love Mean?
Self-love isn’t about being self-absorbed or narcissist. It’s about connecting with ourselves and our well-being.
It’s about making sure you recharge frequently so you have the energy to be there for others.
For example, you can show compassion for yourself when you make little mistakes. Practicing self-love can help you manage stress and rediscover your value.
Below are some of the simple yet powerful ways to practice self-love:
Focus on Giving Out Love
Self-love is just like exercising. It takes consistent practice to cultivate the habit of loving yourself.
A surefire way to practice self-love is to focus on being someone who gives out love. Yes, that’s right. Allow love to flow through you as often as possible.
When you interact with people, try to notice the things you love about them. When you’re walking to the store and you see something/someone you love, appreciate it.
That way, you’ll gradually adjust your body and mind to positive thoughts and feelings.
Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
There is no one on this planet like you. Stop comparing yourself and your achievements with others. Life is a personal race and you should run at your own pace.
Constantly comparing yourself kills self-love. You write your story. No matter how well you know others, you can never tell what they’re facing behind closed doors.
So spend your time watering your plant.
Create Space for Healthy Routines
Yups! The best way to care for yourself is by incorporating healthy habits into your daily life. Create habits that are good for your physical, mental, and emotional wellbeing.
Start by doing the things you love. If you love reading, purchase more books on Amazon. Don’t feel like exercising? Then maybe take a walk or listen to your favorite podcast.
Be Compassionate During Worst Days
So many of us (including me) tend to beat ourselves down when we face challenges. When we fail or screw up, we become our worst critics.
However, it’s during this difficult time that we need to be most loving and forgiving. When things don’t go as planned, be kind to yourself.
Beating yourself when you’re already down is the opposite of self-love. You’ll end up feeling less confident and more worthless.
Don’t Sweat Yourself
A very powerful technique to cultivate self-love is to stop worrying about unnecessary and little things.
Postpone your worries and stop feeding your mind with negative thoughts. By doing that, you’ll be able to get your sh*t together and focus on solutions rather than problems.
Set Realistic Goals
Write down your goals and work towards achieving them. The key is to set small and realistic goals that you can easily accomplish.
Whenever you meet a milestone, reward yourself. Pat yourself on the back and be proud of what you’ve achieved. That way, things will seem more achievable and possible.
As cliche as this sounds, sleep is the best form of self-care. Allow yourself to get as much sleep as possible.
Take out time during the day to take a quick nap. Whenever you feel tired, lay on your bed, pull your blanket over your head, and sleep.
Let Go of Things that No Longer Serves You
We’re constantly holding onto things in the past that can weigh heavy on our souls. The more roadblocks we clear, the more we can focus heavily on self-love.
Do you remember that thing you did one time in the past that you’re embarrassed about? Forgive yourself and let go.
You cannot change what you’ve done in the past but you can control your future. Which option would you choose – Wallow in self-pity or take full control of the present and future moment?
Find your Happy Place
Think of a place that makes you happy. Sit there frequently and just reflect on yourself without thinking about your problems.
Where’s the one place you feel totally at ease, calm, positive, and happy with life? Go to that place whenever you are facing difficult issues (or imagine yourself being there).
Get in Touch with Your Inner Dialogue
If this isn’t the ultimate self-esteem booster, I don’t know what is! Speak to yourself, in the same manner, you’ll speak to your friends, brother, or sister.
Be mindful of what you think, feel, and want. When you wake up in the morning, start your day by telling yourself something positive. Anything that will put a smile on your face.
Live your life in ways that truly reflect happiness!
Surround Yourself With People You Love
You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. Think about who they currently are. Are they making any positive impact on your life? Do they inspire you?
Be picky about who you spend your time with. Surround yourself with people who love and encourage you. Let them remind you of the great person you are.
Spend time with your friends and family members whenever you face tough times.
Accept the Things You Cannot Love
It’s easy to find fault within ourselves. Instead of looking for the things we love about ourselves, why don’t we focus on accepting every part of ourselves?
You don’t need to love everything about yourself to develop self-love, all you need is acceptance. Whenever something happens that makes you want to look down on yourself, try accepting who you are.
Self-love isn’t luxury; it’s a necessity in our society today.
I hope the above tips help you build a solid foundation for caring for yourself 🙂